eBook
The African Game
£19.99
A book about love, money, manipulation and emotional patterns in Kenya.
Table of Contents
1. Introduction – Why I’m Telling This Story
- UK to Kenya
- First expectations vs reality
- Wrong assumptions at the beginning
2. The First Illusion – When Everything Feels Real
- Fast emotions and fast relationships
- “This is different than before”
- Why it is easy to believe
3. The Shift – When Money Appears
- The first requests
- Subtle pressure
- Emotions connected with money
4. The African Game – How It Works in Practice
- The pattern: connection → problem → money
- Repetition of situations
- Why it feels authentic
- Online and offline – the same world
5. Real Stories – What Actually Happened
- Case 1 – Police station and missing passport
- Case 2 – Bail and additional money
- Case 3 – False accusation and pregnancy
- Case 4 – A planned robbery
- Case 5 – Car and recovery for money
- Case 6 – Conflict and provocation
6. Manipulation – How It Works from the Inside
- How the conversation begins
- Building trust
- Fast emotional attachment
- Introducing problems
- Pressure and escalation
- Typical message patterns
- Playing on emotions: guilt, sympathy and pressure
7. The Provider Trap – When Help Becomes an Obligation
- From help to expectation
- Gradual loss of control
- Why it is hard to step back
8. Red Flags – Signals You Ignore at the Beginning
- Too fast-paced
- Emotional pressure
- Creating conflict situations
- Provocation and escalation
9. The Turning Point – When You Start Seeing
- First doubts
- Repetition of patterns
- Emotional detachment
10. Boundaries – The Only Thing That Works
- No explaining yourself
- No emotional reaction
- Clear rules
11. Cultural Clash – Two Different Worlds
- Expectations vs reality
- Differences in approach
- Why misunderstandings happen
12. Hard Truths No One Wants to Hear
- You are not seen as neutral
- Information about you spreads
- Lack of control over the situation
- Money as a solution
13. Final Conclusions – What This Taught Me
- What I will never do again
- How to avoid these situations
- Reality without illusions
Introduction
My move from the United Kingdom to Kenya was not random.
It was one of the most important decisions of my life.
I made that decision after separating from my wife. It was a moment when everything fell apart — and at the same time, a moment when I wanted to change everything.
I was not just looking for a trip.
I was looking for a new beginning.
Kenya seemed like the perfect place. A different world, a different pace of life, different opportunities. A place where you could leave everything behind and start over.
And to be honest, I thought I would stay there forever.
At the beginning, everything looked exactly how I imagined.
People were open. Connections happened fast. There was no distance like in Europe. Life felt simpler, more direct and less complicated than what I was used to before.
I had the feeling that I had found the right place.
And I had very clear assumptions.
If something happens, it can be resolved normally. If you are right, you will be taken seriously. If you have proof, that is enough.
To me, this was obvious.
The problem was that those assumptions only worked in my head.
I did not see it immediately.
At first, everything seemed normal. But over time, situations started to appear that did not quite match what I knew.
At first, they felt like isolated cases. Then more situations appeared. Eventually, I started noticing something I had not seen before: patterns.
The same situations. The same outcomes. The same mechanisms — regardless of the context.
I realized one thing.
The problem was not the reality itself. The problem was the way I was looking at it.
I assumed everything worked based on the rules I knew from Europe.
But it did not.
This book is not about one person. It is a collection of experiences and situations that showed me that what seems obvious at the beginning often has no application in the reality you find yourself in.